Guy R.

My name is Guy R. and I am inspired to share my experiences with Pause and Get Calm.

When I first learned of this concept, I didn’t quite understand what it meant.  At first (blush) I interpreted this action that I was expected to take in times of disturbance as just laying down like a door mat. I saw it as, once again, letting someone walk all over me instead of being allowed to REACT like I always did.  But it wasn’t about anyone else but me and my response to the world. When I Pause and Get Calm something changes in my brain chemistry or something.  I can take a step back and look at the situation or disturbance with ‘New Eyes’ and I give a different response as a result.

As I began to practice Pause and Get Calm more and more, I found myself engaging in this practice even more so when I was not facing any disturbance. This practice, in turn, has ‘lowered the volume’ on disturbances when they do happen and they don’t seem as disturbing as they used to. My reaction to situations has changed for the better and when I’m really disturbed, like when something very serious happens, I immediately pause and get calm before I even have time to think. This is a good thing for me and others around me.

As with any practice, it takes practice. I especially pause and get calm when I feel anger rising, because it easily arrests that anger and prevents it from escalating. I even use Pause and Get Calm when I’m just looking for a clearer head to make a decision about something or I need to make a choice regarding options before me.  I liken Pause and Get Calm to days of old when people suggested to count to 10 when angry- but my practice always involves taking a deep breath (several breaths at times).

Pause and Get Calm helps me in becoming centered and mindful and present.  I feel ‘within the spirit’ when I practice this. – Guy R.

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