Pause & Get Quiet

If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, AA offers a spiritual solution. To accept this, AA suggests we first adopt a spiritual concept of who we are.

In step 3 we decide that we are not just a self, but that we are a combination of self and spirit. AA refers to this new identity as an agent or child of God (Pg 62 Big Book) and that we are “spearheads of God’s ever advancing creation.” (Pg. 49 Big Book)

Established on such a footing, we had a New Employer. Our first job is to train for a new power called serenity. Serenity is a peaceful, spiritual state of mind and body. When serene we are calm, clear headed and quietly aware. It’s the absence of the alcoholic mind.

We need Serenity to meet daily frustrations, stay sober and cement our new spiritual identity into place.

AA suggests a simple practice to find serenity. It can be used anytime, especially when people and situations bother us. Today, at all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we simply pause & get quiet.

By pausing we mean stop. Take a moment. Take a conscious and controlled breath. Anyone can use their breathing to quiet their emotions. Our breathing is a good choice because it’s always available, so we won’t build a dependency on people, places, things or alcohol to find serenity.

As we pause & get quiet, our emotions settle down and our thoughts become still. In the stillness we recognize serenity. Serenity is the power to accept things. Acceptance is the key to everything.

With serenity, we begin to accept people and situations that disturb us. We begin to accept our past and use it when tempted to drink. We begin to accept help through spiritual concepts, practices and new ideas.

Most importantly, with serenity, we begin to accept guidance and direction from God, limited only by our current conception of God.

As we pause & get quiet throughout the day, we become more familiar with serenity and acceptance. New power begins to flow. We start to outgrow fear. We experience more spirituality and less selfishness. We are reborn.

AA states that “the other Steps of the A.A. program can be practiced with success only when Step Three is given a determined and persistent trial.” (Pg. 40 Twelve & Twelve) Once we have sincerely taken this position we have the needed power to safely move on to step 4.

So again, when agitated or doubtful, we simply pause, get quiet and in the stillness, ask for, and receive serenity. Before long it becomes a prescription for peace.

The meeting is open for 20 minutes for sharing on what we just read. The timer is set for 3 minutes. If it beeps please try to wrap up your share in the following minute. Who is inspired to share first?